Do you back down to avoid conflict?

Do you back down to avoid conflict?

Jan 21, 2020 | 2 comments

Many sensitive people back down to avoid conflict, fearing the intense overarousal conflict can cause. But avoiding conflict takes its own toll on you and your relationships. Is there a better way?  Elaine Aron says overarousal is the biggest relationship challenge... Read more
Why mess equals stress for sensitive people

Why mess equals stress for sensitive people

Dec 17, 2019 | 10 comments

For many sensitive people, mess equals stress. We can’t change our temperament, and we can’t avoid making messes. What’s a person to do?   My friend, who is also a highly sensitive person (HSP), called to say the chaos in her apartment was driving... Read more
How do you handle an emotional shock?

How do you handle an emotional shock?

Dec 3, 2019 | 2 comments

Most of us have our ways of recovering from every-day relationship “bumps”….but how do you handle an emotional shock? Talking yourself out of it unfortunately doesn’t work, as I was reminded last week. One night not long ago I walked full-force into a wall. I... Read more
6 relationship benefits of deliberate forgetting

6 relationship benefits of deliberate forgetting

Nov 19, 2019 | 2 comments

In our closest relationships, attentiveness and memory are key…but forgetting has benefits too. The venerable Alexander Pope rightfully declared that “To err is human; to forgive, divine.”So I hope he’ll forgive me for offering you my own version of his famous... Read more