Why is it so hard just to be yourself?
Is it OK just to be yourself? Reflecting deeply on this question can reveal the next steps on your path to healing anxiety and shame. Last October, I published a post called I can only relax when I’m alone. That article got more responses than any other I had ever... Read more
Do you back down to avoid conflict?
Many sensitive people back down to avoid conflict, fearing the intense overarousal conflict can cause. But avoiding conflict takes its own toll on you and your relationships. Is there a better way? Elaine Aron says overarousal is the biggest relationship challenge... Read more
In 2020, claim your sensitive power to create sacred space
To my dear readers: Today’s newsletter about creating sacred space takes the place of the January 7 issue, as I’ll be traveling next week to see family. I’ll be back on a regular Tuesday schedule on January 21. I send you my heartfelt wishes for a joyful, meaningful,... Read more
Why mess equals stress for sensitive people
For many sensitive people, mess equals stress. We can’t change our temperament, and we can’t avoid making messes. What’s a person to do? My friend, who is also a highly sensitive person (HSP), called to say the chaos in her apartment was driving... Read more
How do you handle an emotional shock?
Most of us have our ways of recovering from every-day relationship “bumps”….but how do you handle an emotional shock? Talking yourself out of it unfortunately doesn’t work, as I was reminded last week. One night not long ago I walked full-force into a wall. I... Read more
6 relationship benefits of deliberate forgetting
In our closest relationships, attentiveness and memory are key…but forgetting has benefits too. The venerable Alexander Pope rightfully declared that “To err is human; to forgive, divine.”So I hope he’ll forgive me for offering you my own version of his famous... Read more
“Being inside my body is so difficult”
Silvia wrote me to say, “Being inside my body is so difficult.” She wondered if Focusing might help. Yes. Focusing can help a lot—by shifting the inner relationship between our ill body and our inner parts that (understandably) hate feeling sickness or pain. Thanks... Read more
4 business concepts I use to master HSP “complexity overwhelm”
Until I found effective ways to master HSP “complexity overwhelm”, the demands of contemporary life were making me wish I lived in a cave. Here are four tools I’ve drawn on from the business world that have helped me not only in my business but in “the business... Read more
“I can only relax when I’m alone”
Have you ever heard yourself say, “I can only relax when I’m alone”? Sensitive people are keenly attuned to people around us, and for some of us this attunement can morph into exhausting vigilance. Read on to understand how this pattern develops and... Read moreGet your FREE guide to sensitive anxiety
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