What does trauma feel like from the inside?

What does trauma feel like from the inside?

What does trauma feel like from the inside? Polyvagal Theory can help you understand the physiology of trauma reactions, and to recognize the internal experience that goes with it. I lose all self-control when I see a weed. Like an ordinarily obedient dog who bolts... Read more
Your resistance is not your enemy

Your resistance is not your enemy

If you are tempted to demonize yourself for being “in resistance” to something, remember this key fact: your resistance is not your enemy. On the contrary. Have you ever planned to do something, then not done it? Who hasn’t? We make plans, then life happens. Most of... Read more
3 reasons sensitive people seek 1:1 support

3 reasons sensitive people seek 1:1 support

Many sensitive people seek 1:1 support at some time in their lives. When you understand the kind of support you need, you can more effectively find it. Even better, you can take proactive steps to have support in place.  I recently spotted a philosophical jewel among... Read more
When your work turns into drudgery 

When your work turns into drudgery 

When your work turns into drudgery, it’s hard to keep going. To thrive, sensitive people need meaningful work, sustainable conditions, and positive work relationships. We also need learning and stimulation—but not too much overarousal.  How do you create a sustainable... Read more
The gift of anger

The gift of anger

What do I mean by “the gift of anger?” Isn’t anger something to be avoided, or better yet, transcended? Maybe, but I can’t seem to avoid getting angry, and I suspect transcendence will take me several lifetimes. In the meantime, though, I have a powerful option. I can... Read more
How to clear a space when you have a lot going on

How to clear a space when you have a lot going on

When you get that “this is all just too much” feeling, you need a way to clear a space for yourself…and never more than now, as the pandemic rages on and the political climate remains divisive. In this post, which originally appeared on July 18, 2018... Read more