The latest research on HSPs and sleep: bad news and good news
Here I offer nuggets from the latest research on HSPs and sleep—a highly pertinent topic for sensitive people. Who could possibly resist this face? My son couldn’t… he found this kitten under the dumpster after work the other night. You can guess what happened next.... Read more
I love lists… but lists can be dangerous
I’m a big fan of lists, but lists can be dangerous for HSPs. Here’s how to avoid the pitfalls of a bad list. I love lists. I’m like Toad in Arnold Lobel’s children’s books about the adventures of Frog and Toad: One morning Toad sat in bed. “I have many... Read more
Three powerful metaphors to help you cultivate Loving Adult Presence when your inner world gets crazy
As highly sensitive people, we need to cultivate Loving Adult Presence to be able to hold all that goes on in us. Here’s how. With gratitude to Dr. Elaine Aron for defining them, I’ve often mentioned the four key tasks highly sensitive people need to complete in order... Read more
Do “small things” bother you? Perhaps they aren’t as small as you think.
If small things bother you, how do you handle it? This is a challenge for many HSPs. When I spotted this small, jewel-like bug in our garden, I found myself thinking about the small things that bug us. I’m not talking about small physical stuff, like scratchy tags,... Read more
How to be with despair
Difficult as it sounds, you can learn how to be with despair. We need this skill now more than ever. If you are highly sensitive, then you’ve likely experienced despair. I used to believe that if I evolved enough or did enough inner work or “got my s— together” once... Read more
“My colleagues at work have labeled me sensitive”
Being highly sensitive is a good thing, but being labeled “sensitive” is no fun. A reader, who I will call Elena, wrote to me recently to describe the discouraging situation she finds herself in at work: I’ve had a few experiences recently where my colleagues at... Read more
My Underwater Volcano Theory of Growth
The Underwater Volcano Theory of Growth captivates my imagination and helps me hold myself in a gentler way during the constant growth and change that life brings. When I was a kid, I loved to read National Geographic. I still remember the delightful shiver of terror... Read more
How to recognize your “catastrophies-in-waiting”
Once you get to know your personal “catastrophes-in-waiting” they will wield less power over you. Some of my inner parts are easy to spot. If I break something, for example, my inner critic will cheerfully yell, “You idiot!” Most of us also have parts that are much... Read more
HSPs are sensitive to criticism. How can we handle it better?
There’s no doubt about it: HSPs are sensitive to criticism. Are we doomed to die a thousand deaths, or can something be done? I will never forget my first experience of public criticism. My stomach tightens up just thinking about it. Our seventh-grade band director... Read moreGet your FREE guide to sensitive anxiety
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