6 principles to create a sustainable sensitive life

6 principles to create a sustainable sensitive life

Are you having trouble managing work? This is a crucial, complex project for those of us who are built sensitive—and a never-ending one. My friend Cynthia eloquently described this sustainability challenge in an email she wrote to me:  “Now that I understand I’m... Read more
3 ways to recognize shame

3 ways to recognize shame

Once you know how to recognize shame in all its forms, you can begin to heal this most toxic of emotions. When you feel shame, you think you feel awful because you deserve to feel awful. in other words, the shame feels like an inevitable and unavoidable consequence of... Read more
Do you find conflict overwhelming?

Do you find conflict overwhelming?

Many sensitive people find conflict overwhelming. And we can find it particularly daunting to fight with the person to whom we usually turn for comfort and understanding. To keep our relationships healthy, we need ways to keep overarousal at bay—even when the going... Read more
How to reverse the anxiety spiral

How to reverse the anxiety spiral

How can you reverse the anxiety spiral? Understanding the power of the maelstrom can help you find your way back to calmer waters.  I was not cut out to be a deep-sea diver. As a child I was unnerved by the mere sight of my bathwater going down the drain. The idea of... Read more
Sometimes “selfishness” is a really good thing

Sometimes “selfishness” is a really good thing

Are you selfish to think of yourself first? I don’t think so. In fact, if you are sensitive, your health and happiness depend on your answer to this question. On Saturday mornings, my partner and I eat eggs and toast for breakfast. Then we drink tea, plan our... Read more
“How much should I share?”

“How much should I share?”

If you have a much going on in your mind all the time as I do, you too may have asked yourself, “How much should I share?” Here are some (not all!) of my thoughts on this important topic… I think about things. A lot. Being a sensitive person means... Read more