Saying goodbye to my dad

Saying goodbye to my dad

My dad died last Saturday. He was 87. He had been in hospice home care for seven months as his heart slowly gave out. I’ve put aside the article I had been working on for today. It’s an important one, about apologies. I’ll finish it at some point. But since my dad... Read more
HSPs may be too nice to bite. But we can hiss.

HSPs may be too nice to bite. But we can hiss.

Can you be too nice? Yes. In an effort to be nice, HSPs can stop being honest with ourselves and others. This creates trouble in our relationships.  In a recent session, I shared with my spiritual director a challenging situation I was struggling to deal with. In... Read more
The gift of anger

The gift of anger

What do I mean by “the gift of anger?” Isn’t anger something to be avoided, or better yet, transcended? Maybe, but I can’t seem to avoid getting angry, and I suspect transcendence will take me several lifetimes. In the meantime, though, I have a powerful option. I can... Read more
To head off conflict, acknowledge your point of view

To head off conflict, acknowledge your point of view

Even when a conflict seems insurmountable, a powerful action is always open to you: you can acknowledge your point of view. Then you enter a different world, one in which respectful disagreement is possible and people sometimes, miraculously, change their minds.  We... Read more