How can we be sensitive without being fragile?

How can we be sensitive without being fragile?

Can we be sensitive without being fragile? Yes, if we consciously choose how to define strength—and look at our own beliefs about fragility. The concept of fragility is in the spotlight now, with Robin DiAngelo’s book White Fragility entering its fifteenth week near... Read more
Facing the truth as a white HSP

Facing the truth as a white HSP

I began my last newsletter by saying,   In the week since I drafted this article, violence has erupted across the U.S. and here in Rochester following the murder of George Floyd by a policeman in Minneapolis. I need to respond to this, and I know instant responses are... Read more
Do you “think too much?”

Do you “think too much?”

What does it mean to be “in your head too much”? When we drop judgments and simply see our thoughts as messengers, we can learn to manage them.  Shakespeare was my father’s first great love (my mother being his second). Our family took in plays whenever we could, and... Read more
3 ways to recognize shame

3 ways to recognize shame

Once you know how to recognize shame in all its forms, you can begin to heal this most toxic of emotions. When you feel shame, you think you feel awful because you deserve to feel awful. in other words, the shame feels like an inevitable and unavoidable consequence of... Read more