Are you sensitive? You neeed space in your days. Period.

Oct 6, 2020 | 0 comments

If you are highly sensitive, there’s no way around it: you need space in your days. Without it you’ll get overwhelmed and exhausted.  My partner and I hiked in the Adirondacks in August. We savored five days of gorgeous weather and spectacular views. This has been an... Read more

Finding information that can calm you, not overwhelm you

Jun 2, 2020 | 0 comments

In the week since I drafted this article, violence has erupted across the U.S. and here in Rochester following the murder of George Floyd by a policeman in Minneapolis. I need to respond to this, and I know instant responses are our “new normal.” But my instinct is to... Read more

Why mess equals stress for sensitive people

Dec 17, 2019 | 8 comments

For many sensitive people, mess equals stress. We can’t change our temperament, and we can’t avoid making messes. What’s a person to do?   My friend, who is also a highly sensitive person (HSP), called to say the chaos in her apartment was driving... Read more

How do you handle an emotional shock?

Dec 3, 2019 | 2 comments

Most of us have our ways of recovering from every-day relationship “bumps”….but how do you handle an emotional shock? Talking yourself out of it unfortunately doesn’t work, as I was reminded last week. One night not long ago I walked full-force into a wall. I... Read more

“Being inside my body is so difficult”

Nov 5, 2019 | 0 comments

Silvia wrote me to say, “Being inside my body is so difficult.” She wondered if Focusing might help. Yes. Focusing can help a lot—by shifting the inner relationship between our ill body and our inner parts that (understandably) hate feeling sickness or pain.  Thanks... Read more