Are you cloudy with a chance of overwhelm?

Are you cloudy with a chance of overwhelm?

In the chaotic year after I left my marriage, I put my oboe on the shelf. After years of performing and teaching, it was a big change to work as a sort of Girl Friday for an arts organization. It wasn’t a bad change, but it was a big one, and my emotional state... Read more
How to be with despair

How to be with despair

“If I had my s— together, I’d never feel despair.” Or so I tell myself. If that’s true, I definitely don’t have my s—together. I’m a happy person…and sometimes I experience despair. Should I hit... Read more
How to melt your shame by being with it

How to melt your shame by being with it

Last week I shared Jacquelyn Strickland’s five stages of cultural awareness for sensitive people. If you disparage or deny your sensitivity (Stages One and Two) you know first-hand how painful it is. To reject a trait you were born with is to reject your very... Read more
The high cost of not accepting your sensitivity

The high cost of not accepting your sensitivity

As a kid, I felt like the Ugly Duckling—chronically awkward and self-conscious. If you had asked me why, I’d have been puzzled how to answer. Aside from not being popular or athletic, I was reasonably “successful” by the cultural standards I knew: I... Read more