I act like a space cadet sometimes. Here’s why.

I act like a space cadet sometimes. Here’s why.

My nearest and dearest would be the first to tell you I act like a space cadet sometimes. I can’t blame it all on my HSP trait, but certain aspects of high sensitivity definitely contribute. I’ve pulled off an impressive range of space-outs in my day. Some were... Read more
HSPs and zzzs: key facts about your sleep

HSPs and zzzs: key facts about your sleep

The topic of HSPs and zzzs is complex. True, we need a lot of sleep. However, our sleep also needs to be high-quality. Your sleep quality is influenced by many smaller factors, and by one big factor that may surprise you. In college I papered my dorm walls with... Read more
How do you handle setbacks?

How do you handle setbacks?

How do you handle setbacks? This question deserves a close look, because we can create needless suffering for ourselves if we are unwittingly carrying beliefs about what setbacks mean about us. Spring in Rochester can break your heart. The cherry and magnolia trees... Read more
What does trauma feel like from the inside?

What does trauma feel like from the inside?

What does trauma feel like from the inside? Polyvagal Theory can help you understand the physiology of trauma reactions, and to recognize the internal experience that goes with it. I lose all self-control when I see a weed. Like an ordinarily obedient dog who bolts... Read more
Your resistance is not your enemy

Your resistance is not your enemy

If you are tempted to demonize yourself for being “in resistance” to something, remember this key fact: your resistance is not your enemy. On the contrary. Have you ever planned to do something, then not done it? Who hasn’t? We make plans, then life happens. Most of... Read more
3 reasons sensitive people seek 1:1 support

3 reasons sensitive people seek 1:1 support

Many sensitive people seek 1:1 support at some time in their lives. When you understand the kind of support you need, you can more effectively find it. Even better, you can take proactive steps to have support in place.  I recently spotted a philosophical jewel among... Read more
When your work turns into drudgery 

When your work turns into drudgery 

When your work turns into drudgery, it’s hard to keep going. To thrive, sensitive people need meaningful work, sustainable conditions, and positive work relationships. We also need learning and stimulation—but not too much overarousal.  How do you create a sustainable... Read more