Your resistance is not your enemy

Your resistance is not your enemy

If you are tempted to demonize yourself for being “in resistance” to something, remember this key fact: your resistance is not your enemy. On the contrary. Have you ever planned to do something, then not done it? Who hasn’t? We make plans, then life happens. Most of... Read more
3 reasons sensitive people seek 1:1 support

3 reasons sensitive people seek 1:1 support

Many sensitive people seek 1:1 support at some time in their lives. When you understand the kind of support you need, you can more effectively find it. Even better, you can take proactive steps to have support in place.  I recently spotted a philosophical jewel among... Read more
When your work turns into drudgery 

When your work turns into drudgery 

When your work turns into drudgery, it’s hard to keep going. To thrive, sensitive people need meaningful work, sustainable conditions, and positive work relationships. We also need learning and stimulation—but not too much overarousal.  How do you create a sustainable... Read more
The gift of anger

The gift of anger

What do I mean by “the gift of anger?” Isn’t anger something to be avoided, or better yet, transcended? Maybe, but I can’t seem to avoid getting angry, and I suspect transcendence will take me several lifetimes. In the meantime, though, I have a powerful option. I can... Read more
To head off conflict, acknowledge your point of view

To head off conflict, acknowledge your point of view

Even when a conflict seems insurmountable, a powerful action is always open to you: you can acknowledge your point of view. Then you enter a different world, one in which respectful disagreement is possible and people sometimes, miraculously, change their minds.  We... Read more