How to shift your attitude towards others’ anger
If you can shift your attitude towards others’ anger, you hold the key to transforming your relationships. Every Tuesday afternoon, I put on my old black pants and my “Be Kind To Animals” hoodie. I snap on my fanny pack, which contains my ID on a lanyard, an 18-inch... Read more
How to slow down a conversation—a key skill for HSPs
Once you know how to slow down a conversation—no matter how intense it gets—you can relax and really listen. What a relief. There are few things I find more stressful than a conversation that’s moving too fast for me. If you are highly sensitive like me, I’m sure you... Read more
How do you open your heart and choose the intent to learn?
To facilitate inner healing, you need a way to open your heart and choose the intent to learn. Here are some ways to do that. When it comes to doing inner parts work, I appreciate the directness and simplicity of Inner Bonding® (click here for my brief description of... Read more
If your parts work process gets stuck, this could be the reason
If your parts work process gets stuck, consider this possibility. It can be transformative. I’m guessing many of you have done some kind of parts work in therapy or in workshops or retreats. Internal Family Systems (IFS) is the most widely known parts work modality.... Read more
Do you respect your natural rhythms?
When you respect your natural rhythms, you both save and create energy. Our miniature daffodils have burst into bloom. I can feel the spring changes coming beyond the garden, too. We have daylight after dinner. The birds are singing more. We’ve even had days where we... Read more
An HSP searches for meaning in work and relationships
An HSP searches for meaning the way a plant grows towards the sun. We need it, and we persevere in seeking it, even when it’s a struggle. J wrote to ask if I could write about the search for in-depth meaning in work and relationships. I asked if he could say more. I... Read more
Understanding the connection between urgency and violence
Making the connection between urgency and violence opened my eyes to the many ways I can contribute to peace within me and around me. A friend once commented to me, “When I give in to urgency, I do violence to myself or to others.” I quickly realized that by... Read more
Even mild dehydration is hard on HSPs. Here’s why.
Did you know that even mild dehydration is hard on HSPs? I’ve only recently realized all the effects it has had on me. The first time I read Elaine Aron’s original book for HSPs, The Highly Sensitive Person, I was struck by her comments about HSPs and water. She... Read more







